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I delayed this week’s newsletter so I could include last night’s debate and… como se dice…. “shitshow??”
The candidates realized the rules didn’t apply to them if they ignored the rules, so they talked over and under each other to create a chaotic spectacle where almost no-one was heard. Sound familiar? It’s like most of the candidates, desperate to remain relevant, tapped into their inner Trump. I may do a candidate debate breakdown later, but for now I want to focus your attention on a response I got to last week’s newsletter.
This comes from GK who hit me up on my community text message number. You can join too. Visit this link on your phone, or send any text to +1-202-894-8844
Hi Baratunde, regarding the WaPo article you linked to about bullying because Trump does it. I’m curious what parents really are telling their kids, on both sides. What pains me deeply is that liberals throwing hate on Trumpians is just as bad. We may never understand why people voted for Trump but what I’ve come to realize is that for the most part these are (were) normal people. Neighbors, colleagues, etc. So back to my original question? What do we all tell our kids about bullying in the name of Trump, or in the name of anti-Trump. I’m just so disheartened by it all.
I hear you GK, and I appreciate you identifying the universal nature of how this plays out. It’s easier for me to call out the bullying on behalf of Trump, but the truth is we have all be worsened and coarsened by the environment and culture he has promoted. My friend Sam (actually, Dr. Sam Rader) is a psychoanalyst and she’s talked about how we all have some Trump in us, some inner shadow we don’t want to acknowledge but comes out anyway. I think that’s what kids are picking up on in these stories and what GK is seeing.
When the environment gets this toxic, and we feel very desperate… that’s when principles and values matter even more. If bullying is wrong, it’s got to be wrong for everyone. It’s probably not a good idea to match Trump energy with more Trump energy, as intuitive and satisfying as that may seem. I reluctantly admit, I think we’ve got to be better while also being honest about how we feel. In many ways, the United States has become a cruel society. We push people to fend for themselves. We relish making the necessities of life hard to attain. I could go on, but the point is this: the counter to cruelty isn’t more cruelty. It’s kindness.
Let me know what you think, and for those of you with children (your own or those of others close to you), how have you been talking to them about the U.S. president? What have you noticed them or their friends exhibiting in their language or behavior? Just reply to this message.
And now, for your regularly-scheduled content.
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